S2E13: The Truth About Boundaries

Today’s episode is all about boundaries and the small shifts you can make to your perspective so that you can be true to yourself and your boundaries with ease.

One of the biggest misconceptions when it comes to boundaries is that you create boundaries *for* other people, when in fact, boundaries are for you. 

Boundaries are created for *you* to adhere to them, not for others to adhere to them. 

You don’t create boundaries so that you can control or manipulate how other people interact with you, you create boundaries so that you can interact with others in integrity and alignment with who you are and how you want to engage with others. 

The next misconception people often have about boundaries is that when you set a boundary it's to keep things out - to keep out the drama, the criticism, the negativity. But boundaries aren't about what you’re keeping out, they're about what you're protecting and keeping in - your integrity, your sanity (and insanity at times), your serenity. 

Once you make the shift that the function boundaries serve is to protect what’s valuable to you and not to keep things out, it becomes a whole lot easier for you to honor the boundaries you have created for yourself. 

You might want to think about it this way - if you're planting a tree, and it's just barely starting to peek through the ground, would you leave that little sprout completely unprotected against the outside elements, to fend for itself? Absolutely not! You would put a fence around it, you would protect it from the outside elements that could potentially kill your little seedling.

Your boundaries are your fence, your boundaries are to help nurture you so that you can grow. 

So, the next time you think about boundaries, remember: 

Boundaries are for you. 

Other people will constantly try to move your boundaries, get you to break them, go over them or under them, either because it’s who they are or because it’s how they are used to you being. And when you believe that your boundaries are there for others, you will get upset and move them constantly. But when you recognize that your boundaries are there to protect you, then it becomes so much easier to know what you have to do, in any given moment, in order to protect that.   

Setting your boundaries means that you are taking accountability for your wellbeing, your sanity, your serenity and acting in your integrity. That is your responsibility and it will help you to operate from a place of love, kindness and compassion for yourself and for others. 

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