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Shirani M. Pathak teaches you how to have amazing relationships by doing one simple thing: dismantling supremacy’s internalized oppression and conditioning. Though it’s simple, it may not be easy. Tune in to learn how perfectionism, imposter syndrome, judgement, criticism, comparison (aka comparisonitis), fear of failure, inadequacy and the “not enoughs” hold you back from the amazing relationships you desire. In this podcast I‘m illuminating how what you‘re feeling is a result of what we’ve been programmed to believe living under supremacy culture’s systems of oppression, and offer solutions to help you heal from supremacy‘s sneaky conditioning. I cover topics of racism, relationships, emotional intelligence, relational intelligence, neuroscience, the nervous system, intergenerational trauma, epigenetics, spirituality, authentic leadership, alcoholism, addiction, abuse, violence and so much more. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and join me in my private newsletter community where I have a specially curated collection of tools to get started. Visit https://www.shiranimpathak.com/connect where the tools are waiting for you.
Episodes
Thursday Jul 16, 2020
Thursday Jul 16, 2020
Ever get frustrated when you're trying to have a conversation with someone and it feels like they aren't hearing what you're actually saying? Or maybe you've been guilty of that yourself? Then assumptions get made, feelings get hurt, and you end up feeling sad or angry, disconnected and alone.
In today's episode you'll hear about how to show up for someone, to listen to their story, to deeply hear them, so that you can build deep connections with them. So that you can actually connect as opposed to disconnect.
Why does this matter?
Because so much of what we see in our world today is due to the lack of deep understanding of one another and communication with each other.
I'd love to hear from you! Hop on over to Instagram, follow me, and send me a DM letting me know who you are and how you're liking the show. https://www.instagram.com/shiranimpathak @shiranimpathak
Links:
Join the private newsletter community to receive bonus episodes of the podcast, community only invitations for quarterly Coffee Dates, and offers on anything I create delivered straight to your inbox: www.shiranimpathak.com/connect
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Our hashtags are #fierceauthenticity and #showupbeseengetlove
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For a transcript of this episode visit www.shiranimpathak.com/podcast
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Thursday Jul 09, 2020
Thursday Jul 09, 2020
We all have one thing in common: Our shared humanity.
In this week's love note I guide you through a brief practice in reconnecting with your humanity, and our shared common humanity.
Carve out a couple minutes and create the space to enjoy the benefits of this healing practice.
Warning: Do not do this practice while driving or operating heavy machinery.
Links:
Join the private newsletter community to receive bonus episodes of the podcast, community only invitations for quarterly Coffee Dates, and offers on anything I create delivered straight to your inbox: www.shiranimpathak.com/connect
Find Me on Social Media:
Our hashtags are #fierceauthenticity and #showupbeseengetlove
If you're loving the episode, take a screenshot, share it on social, and tag me in your post!
Instagram: @shiranimpathak
Facebook: @ShiraniMPathak
For a transcript of this episode visit www.shiranimpathak.com/podcast
Donate to the work:
*Some of the links used may be affiliate links. It will cost you nothing extra to use my links, but I may earn a commission if you use one of my links. This is one way to financially support the podcast.
Thursday Jul 09, 2020
Thursday Jul 09, 2020
Today on the podcast I'll be answering the question: Why is everyone so angry?
The answer is simple: America is experiencing collective grief over the centuries of unhealed and unprocessed atrocities, especially against Black and Brown bodies.
Tune in today to learn more and shift your perspective the next time you come across someone who is angry.
If you or someone you know is a person of color (or loves a person of color) and would like healing and support right now, please visit www.CenterforSoulfulRelationships.com to learn more.
Links:
Join the private newsletter community to receive bonus episodes of the podcast, community only invitations for quarterly Coffee Dates, and offers on anything I create delivered straight to your inbox: www.shiranimpathak.com/connect
Find Me on Social Media:
Our hashtags are #fierceauthenticity and #showupbeseengetlove
If you're loving the episode, take a screenshot, share it on social, and tag me in your post!
Instagram: @shiranimpathak
Facebook: @ShiraniMPathak
For a transcript of this episode visit www.shiranimpathak.com/podcast
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*Some of the links used may be affiliate links. It will cost you nothing extra to use my links, but I may earn a commission if you use one of my links. This is one way to financially support the podcast.
Thursday Jul 02, 2020
Thursday Jul 02, 2020
Today rather than sharing new information with you, I want to invite you instead to take time to rest and reflect.
We've covered some big topics in the podcast so far, and now it's time to digest.
In today's episode I do a recap of where we've been and ask you some questions to turn within as part of the learning, healing, unlearning, and growing process.
For free access to my nervous system library of tools, visit: https://www.fierceauthenticity.com/page/159907-nervous-system
Links:
Join the private newsletter community to receive bonus episodes of the podcast, community only invitations for quarterly Coffee Dates, and offers on anything I create delivered straight to your inbox: www.shiranimpathak.com/connect
Find Me on Social Media:
Our hashtags are #fierceauthenticity and #showupbeseengetlove
If you're loving the episode, take a screenshot, share it on social, and tag me in your post!
Instagram: @shiranimpathak
Facebook: @ShiraniMPathak
For a transcript of this episode visit www.shiranimpathak.com/podcast
Donate to the work:
*Some of the links used may be affiliate links. It will cost you nothing extra to use my links, but I may earn a commission if you use one of my links. This is one way to financially support the podcast.
Thursday Jun 25, 2020
Thursday Jun 25, 2020
Today on the podcast we have our very first special guest, Dr. B. Nilaja Green. Dr. Green writes, speaks and engages at the intersections of individual psychological distress and collective socio-cultural oppression as an Atlanta based licensed clinical psychologist.
Dr. Green is certified in trauma informed care and delivering specialized trauma treatments to vulnerable populations, such as military veterans, black women and members of the LGBTQ community. She writes, leads, workshops, and trainings, asking clinicians to cultivate their own introspective practice and to approach care of clients with greater cultural humility.
You can learn more about Dr. Green at www.standpointtherapyandconsulting.org and follow her on Instagram @DrBNilaja (https://www.instagram.com/drbnilaja/).
This conversation ended up longer than we planned on, and there was no stopping us. The content shared is amazing!
Some highlights of the conversation include:
-What is Juneteenth and what does it mean to Dr. Green (6:11)
-How racism is NOT a pandemic or a mental illness (10:47)
-Slaves as property, not people (14:34)
-How intergenerational trauma lives in our DNA, and how ALL people carry it, not just Black, Indigenous, or People of Color--white people carry it, too! (17:28)
-How trauma shows up in our body, including my own personal experiences during COVID quarantine and the Black Lives Matter movement of 2020 (27:33)
-Oppressor as oppressed and how learning to be white disconnects white people from the most important aspect we share: our humanity (34:35)
-What affinity groups are and why they matter (40:16)
-Racism isn't Black and Brown people's problem to solve--it's white people's problem to solve (44:14)
-Why quick solutions won't work, and we have to do this work internally first (47:16)
-What about biracial or multiracial individuals? How do they do their healing work? (51:36)
-Remember to stay connected with compassion and how self-judgment won't help (55:19)
Resources we shared are:
Resmaa Menakem https://www.resmaa.com/
Bayo Akomolafe http://bayoakomolafe.net/
Following the release of our episode, Dr. Green would like to add the following update:
"Thank you for speaking into existence that I will be invited by the Mayor of Atlanta, but I was actually invited by the Mayor of East Point - Mayor Holiday-Ingraham, who is a phenomenal woman committed to the values of inclusion and equity in our city of East Point, (a city in Atlanta - it's weird here, we have the mayor of the city and then other mayors as well, go figure) to celebrate Juneteenth. I am also trying not to beat myself up for saying "this guy" instead of Rayshard Brooks (I blame it on a Saturday brain and trying to protect myself from the news), sigh. We must honor the fallen by remembering their names. (It's the least we can do :) )"
Links:
Join the private newsletter community to receive bonus episodes of the podcast, community only invitations for quarterly Coffee Dates, and offers on anything I create delivered straight to your inbox: www.shiranimpathak.com/connect
Find Me on Social Media:
Our hashtags are #fierceauthenticity and #showupbeseengetlove
If you're loving the episode, take a screenshot, share it on social, and tag me in your post!
Instagram: @shiranimpathak
Facebook: @ShiraniMPathak
For a transcript of this episode visit www.shiranimpathak.com/podcast
Donate to the work:
*Some of the links used may be affiliate links. It will cost you nothing extra to use my links, but I may earn a commission if you use one of my links. This is one way to financially support the podcast.
Friday Jun 19, 2020
Friday Jun 19, 2020
This week as you are working on regulating your nervous system, your love note is permission to rest.
To access my free library of tools to help you with nervous system regulation, visit https://www.fierceauthenticity.com/page/159907-nervous-system
Links:
Join the private newsletter community to receive bonus episodes of the podcast, community only invitations for quarterly Coffee Dates, and offers on anything I create delivered straight to your inbox: www.shiranimpathak.com/connect
Find Me on Social Media:
Our hashtags are #fierceauthenticity and #showupbeseengetlove
If you're loving the episode, take a screenshot, share it on social, and tag me in your post!
Instagram: @shiranimpathak
Facebook: @ShiraniMPathak
For a transcript of this episode visit www.shiranimpathak.com/podcast
Donate to the work:
*Some of the links used may be affiliate links. It will cost you nothing extra to use my links, but I may earn a commission if you use one of my links. This is one way to financially support the podcast.
Thursday Jun 18, 2020
Thursday Jun 18, 2020
In today's episode we're diving into what your nervous system does, and why it is incredibly important to have practices right now to regulate it.
Spoiler alert: It's because without tools to regulate your nervous system, you will end up with a fried nervous system, and will be either super anxious, or, stuck in a state of freeze (you know, that numb out, scroll the social media feed type freeze).
To access the video library I spoke about in the episode, visit: https://www.fierceauthenticity.com/page/159907-nervous-system
Links:
Join the private newsletter community to receive bonus episodes of the podcast, community only invitations for quarterly Coffee Dates, and offers on anything I create delivered straight to your inbox: www.shiranimpathak.com/connect
Find Me on Social Media:
Our hashtags are #fierceauthenticity and #showupbeseengetlove
If you're loving the episode, take a screenshot, share it on social, and tag me in your post!
Instagram: @shiranimpathak
Facebook: @ShiraniMPathak
For a transcript of this episode visit www.shiranimpathak.com/podcast
Donate to the work:
*Some of the links used may be affiliate links. It will cost you nothing extra to use my links, but I may earn a commission if you use one of my links. This is one way to financially support the podcast.
Thursday Jun 11, 2020
Thursday Jun 11, 2020
You have to feel it to heal it, and tears are just frozen feelings thawing out. Your love note this week is to allow the tears fall. Feel all of your feelings, the anger, the sadness, the grief, and let your tears fall. That's the only way to unfreeze yourself so that the healing can begin.
Links:
Join the private newsletter community to receive bonus episodes of the podcast, community only invitations for quarterly Coffee Dates, and offers on anything I create delivered straight to your inbox: www.shiranimpathak.com/connect
Find Me on Social Media:
Our hashtags are #fierceauthenticity and #showupbeseengetlove
If you're loving the episode, take a screenshot, share it on social, and tag me in your post!
Instagram: @shiranimpathak
Facebook: @ShiraniMPathak
For a transcript of this episode visit www.shiranimpathak.com/podcast
Donate to the work:
*Some of the links used may be affiliate links. It will cost you nothing extra to use my links, but I may earn a commission if you use one of my links. This is one way to financially support the podcast.